Key Concepts

You might notice that my curriculum and concepts are a bit different than most marriage programs, which tend to focus on money, chores, kids and such. That's because if you're here then you're having trouble with getting you and your partner on the same page, likely on important and difficult issues, and frankly on probably more than one.

My approach focuses on how to be, feel and act SO THAT you and your partner can understand each other, work through challenges and actually enjoy a satisfying marriage. Think of it this way: to use an analogy from baseball, imagine what the pitcher does. General advice would be to throw the ball into the strike zone, but in order to do that you have to have strength, coordination, flexibility and muscle control AND you need to know the techniques of throwing different pitches like fastballs and curveballs. My teaching and coaching is about everything that GOES INTO being able to pitch the ball.

You can reference the mind map above every day for a quick check. I recommend once in the morning to remind yourself what to do, and then again in the evening to think about what you did well and where you could have done better. With time and practice you'll begin to absorb it and the reference will become easy, straightforward and second-nature.

Decisions

We all get caught up in disappointments and upsets from time to time, and if there's been enough of them we can even get stuck in negativity so deep our partner (and our marriage) can simply never crawl out. These are decisions to make each and every day to set and keep you on a path towards a great marriage.

Mindsets

Have you ever felt "sure" of why your partner did something that pissed you off? Or afraid to bring up something that you felt your partner would be upset about? Those are just two examples of mindsets that work against both your relationship success and your own happiness. These six mindsets are "means of approach" be more effective and successful when thinking about your partner, interacting with your partner, and taking care of yourself.

Habits

It's all to easy to get caught up in work or parenting or... whatever, and take many things about our partner and our relationship for granted. These habits help keep us on track, "watering our relationship" so to speak, to ensure a rich friendship, collaborative partnership, and intimate connection with your partner.

Resources

People continually cite lack of time, energy and/or money as reasons why they can't "do this" or "do that". The truth, however, is that small changes in our attitude and approach can yield big improvements in the abundance of these resources.

Skills